Dates in the past..

Boy, are you guys in for a treat tonight! So as we all know, in seven days it'll be Valentine's Day. For some (usually the bitter-hearted, cynical individuals whom has once experienced a painful heartache and hasn't quite gotten over it yet), this holiday could be dreadful and dragging. For others, it could be one of the best days of the year. I mean c'mon, spending time with your loved ones, your significant other, a blow-up doll, whatever works for you personally; what could possibly be better than that right? That's not my point, but anywho, as this delightful celebration of love creeps around the corner, I wanted to share with you a few interesting dates I've encountered in my time of being SFL, that meaning Single For Life meaning single until I find someone who eventually wins me over (term used excessively by my girl friends and I). For the men I'm about to menion in my blog who are reading, I apologize for the things you might find offensive beforehand. This is all for good times reminscing only. If you wish for me to not share our date, let me know and I'll be glad to respect your decision and take it out.

I'm more than positive that there are many individuals out there who meet interesting others online and end up meeting them later in person to maybe try to pursue something more than an online relationship; some of you are just too ashamed to admit it. There's nothing wrong with that, but that wasn't my intent for this certain person I had first met online. Firstly, he just wasn't my type and nothing about him was very intriguing, just your average Joe you can say. He was just a cool friend to chat with here and there and that's exactly what we did. Later on when I found out he was going to be in town for whatever business it was, I decided to meet up with him; it was a date. He was gonna pick me up, go grab some lunch then head out to a movie. As he texted me to come outside, he wrote, "Don't be nervous!" I wanted to laugh because honestly, I wasn't nervous at all. I only saw this guy as a cool friend and I've been hinted a few times by him that he wanted more; I shrugged it off..NOT gonna happen. Anywho, first thoughts when I stepped into the car...not bad, looks better in photos, seems normal at least. We're talking as we drive to our first destination and this guy is stuttering a bunch, I'm thinking he's just nervous maybe? We arrive and he steps out of the car, WOW. Really short! I'm not tall myself, but c'mon! We get seated, order, wait for our food and I start to notice that this guy blinks a lot, a LOT. And it's not like a normal blink where someone almost doesn't notice it, he blinked liked there was something in his eye that he wanted to get out. I found it really irritating, and to make matters worse, he's still stuttering. Pay attention to your food, PHOUA!!! We finish eating, he pays for the bill, what a pleasant surprise, he's a gentleman. We're walking outside back to his car and he opens my car door for me and closes it, at this point, I'm thinking..hmm, okay..a bit tacky for me, whatever. When we arrive at the movie theatre, we have a friendly fight on who's going to pay for the tickets. Okay guys, I know you may feel like sometimes you owe it up to the girl to pay for everything on a first date, but for me..I want to help out too if it's a mutual agreement for the date in the first place. He ends up paying and throughout the whole entire movie, I just felt really uncomfortable around him..can't really explain it. The movie is over, he does the same thing..opens my door, closes it, but this time it's so obvious it's not even natural. This guy is trying so hard to win me over and it's just turning me off. Seriously, I appreciate the fact that you still try to fight for chivarly, but I'm capable of opening my doors and closing them as well. I didn't like it. He took me home after that, gave him a friendly hug, said goodbye. Overall, no...he just tried way too hard to be normal and that wasn't normal and it was obvious to me. Eaaahh, don't really talk to the dude anymore. OH YEAH! I forgot to mention, as we were talking in the car, he mentioned he was ready to settle down and have a football team of kids. Not EXACTLY what a girl wants to hear on a first date, it's creepy and immediately raises a red flag that says...WALK THE OTHER WAY. I think he finally found a girl. God bless her soul.

Next guy, we've always hung out at a bunch of house parties but never really took it to the next level of just us two hanging out. Well one night he sent me a text message saying he was bored, so I decided we would go grab some coffee at Perkins and maybe finally just sit and talk, find out more about each other. So we arrive at Perkins and I get a cup of hot cocoa with extra whip cream cause it just tastes better that way. He doesn't get anything..at all..not even a cup of water. It was extremely awkward at first because it was sorta quiet; it was hard to start a conversation with him. So knowing that this guy lives and breathes dancing, I asked him a few questions about the subject. He doesn't stop talking, and starts to tut nonstop. For those of you who don't know what tutting is, it's just a contemporary dance style that involves creating geometric positions and movements with the body. He tutted through the whole night...stole my mug of hot cocoa for a second and starts tutting with that as well. Don't get me wrong, his talent blew my mind but it would have been nice if he stopped at one point. We sit there for a bit longer and I decided to call it a night, I drove him back home and in the car we came to talking about his past relationships. He then asks me how many guys I had been with as in slept with. That matter is only for me to know and share with those whom I feel comfortable enough to tell, I didn't answer him. I then asked him and being brutally honest with me, he answered..."Like..13 or 14." Fuck your life! I don't know about the rest of you, but I'm TERRIFIED of STDs and whatnot. Goodbye mister, you're AWESOME to hang out with but you're not really boyfriend material. Him and I still keep in touch, he lives in CA now and seems successful enough with his dancing. I'm happy for him.

A bars not really the best place to meet a guy who could possibly have potential, that's where I met my next interesting date. My girls and I are on the dance floor dancing the night away, having a great time and as I turn around, I notice a really attractive guy staring our direction. He was with his friends so I was a bit shy to approach him to say hi. For the rest of the night we just kept making eye contact, smiling and that was it. Bar time quickly rolls around and as my girls and I get off the dance floor and walk out the door, I caught him staring again so I smiled and waived goodbye. I'm not sure if this was fortunate or not, but one of my sister's co-workers spot her, stopped us, and they start talking right before we're about to exit the bar. The really cute dude who had been eyeing me the whole night follows us without my knowledge, taps me from behind and says hello. Wow, he's REALLY attractive and sweet. We end up exchanging numbers and start texting every night after that. When we finally found a free night, he wanted me to go over to watch a movie. I'm thinking, sure, why not..I'm attracted to this guy enough and he seemed really sweet. So I go over, we're cuddling on his bed watching a movie and he starts going for the bra. It gets really awkward cause I was NOT going to let that happen. I made it obvious that I didn't want that from him and for the rest of the night..it was REALLY awkward. This poor guy just totally got rejected and he's a bit bummed out. I just end up leaving and don't hear much from him since. I run into his roommate a few weeks later at JimmyJohn's after bar time; he was determined that the dude was a bit homosexual. We spent the night venting about it. Good times.

Okay, so here were three unsuccessful dates I've experienced. I hope you enjoyed them. Please share with me your encounters. I'd be delighted to read them. =) Guys especially....what were your dates like with girls? What do you like and don't like about girls on a first date? Share, share, SHARE!

For Valentine's Day this year, I'm spending it with the besties. We're dressing up, going out for dinner, then gonna go watch Valentine's Day. I already know it's gonna be a good day. Any day with the girls is a good day. I hope you all have a wonderful Valentines with your loved ones, eat lots of chocolate and be kind! Good night.